What’d you say

Ok.

Here goes.

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Have a busy day ahead of me

But I thought I’d like to take a little time to blog this morning

Because I have this whole chunk of stuff on my mind.

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Was listening in to Class 95 this morning

And some stuff dawned on me.

It wasn’t long that Glenn Ong and Jamie Yeo split up

And it also didn’t take long before he got together with Jean Danker.

So I wondered,

Why is it that there are people out there who can go into another relationship so quickly after one has failed.

And how come there are people who can find a new partner so easily.

Even when they seemed so in love even until the end.

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In this context, i define ‘quickly’ as 3 months or less.

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It was a struggle for me to get out of my previous relationship

And it took me at least 10 months to get into another one.

It was hard.

Really hard.

I couldn’t quite convince myself to start dating other people within that 10 months.

It was only when i resolved to get out of that rut that i opened up.

And coincidentally, Dani came along.

So things just took off from there.

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Posing the above question to different people yielded differing answers.

My colleague said:

“ Some people just can’t do without love and they can’t stand loneliness. So when someone comes along, they simply grab and go. There is no consideration about the future and very often, the relationship doesn’t last.”

My cousin said (and i quote her directly):

“ Love hits you when you least expects it”

My friend said:

“ Cos maybe the reason for the break up was caused by the new person”

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I thought all their opinions made sense.

It just depends on which scenario one falls into.

Some already have someone else in mind, hence they give up one for the other.

Some just have an abundance of potential partners around them, so it isn’t hard to pick from the pot.

Some simply cannot stomach the thought of being alone.

Perhaps I can never fully understand because I don’t belong to this group of people.

I guess as long as one is happy,

Nothing else really matters.

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For me,

Time was probably the essence.

While my stubborness was probably the obstacle.

It wasn’t until one day that i decided i should pull myself out of this mess that i managed to move on

And i know i will never live to regret this decision

Because it was from that day that I convinced myself to open up to others.

From then on, i never looked back again.

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And just last night,

Dani told me he met his ex gf with her new bf at a friend’s party.

They were kissing in front of him.

So I was curious to know how he felt.

He told me he didn’t feel bad or anything.

He just thought that it was interesting to see her in a different view.

Maybe I would find it as amusing to see my ex in such a way (haha).